Honor, Part Six: Appreciation

Kara is the wife of a Transportation Coordinator Officer for the United States Army Reserves.  Kara is unique in that she is not only a military wife, but also a veteran. She served in the United States Army for five years. How amazing is that!? She is a mom of two beautiful girls, currently works in Behavioral Heath and is working towards earning her masters in Public Health from the University of Missouri. Here is what honor means to her and her message for our future generations:

Honor has defined my life in several different aspects. This includes the desire to honor our county and the men and women who serve or have served. Being a former military member and spouse of a military member, it is imperative that I structure my family’s life around the honor military life has instilled within us.

Living an honorable life means appreciating the roles you are given and performing your duties with respect and dignity. Being a military spouse, I honor several things. I honor my husband and the sacrifice that he displays towards our country. I honor the duties that I take on as a “single” parent while my husband is away. I honor the obligation to support my family with guidance and strength. Living an honorable life is extremely rewarding.

Being honorable requires respect, and respect is not given – it is earned. Respect those around you. Say please and thank you. Show gratitude. Stand for our flag – the meaning is much greater than some will ever understand. Honor our country and the men and women who so desperately work to preserve our rights. Honor your brothers and sisters and create a team – not a divide between sex or race. Most of all, I want the next generation to understand that maintaining honor can be difficult. That’s life. It’s messy and unpredictable. Do not settle for the easy path – you will never find fulfillment. Appreciate everything you live for and appreciate the struggles that we as Americans are not faced with. If anything, honor those who serve away from their families and honor the family members left behind to hold everything together.


One of my favorite parts of what Kara said was her call to honor others by creating a team, a community, rather than a divide. I think that is one of the reasons why our military is so successful, because of their ability to have servicemen and women work as a team no matter their race, religion, sex, political beliefs (like they do in basic training or BUDS). They are stripped down of their identities and built back up together, able to put differences aside to reach a common goal and in doing so create strong bonds, holding each other in the highest regard. Why? Because in the heat of battle, they need each other, their lives depend on it.

Her definition of honor speaks in direct contradiction to the offended world our culture is nurturing and evolving into. It’s ok to disagree. It’s ok to stand for something. But it’s not okay to use those as an excuse to be disrespectful, whether towards our leaders, coaches, bosses, teachers, and especially our servicemen and women. As Kara said, that’s not always easy. It’s takes work and self control to operate in respect, but “wide is the gate and spacious and broad is the way that leads away to destruction, and many are those who are entering through it.” (Matthew 7:13) Appreciate what you have and give honor where honor is due.

Thank you Kara, so much for your service to our country and your continual sacrifice as your husband protects and defends our nation. We salute you.

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